Adult Games To Play With Your Other Half Number 6: Visiting A Dominatrix

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I think I’ve saved one of the juiciest and most ‘out there’ suggestion till the end of my ideas. It’s exactly like it says in the title. Preferably with your other half.

There a quite a few dominatrixes who offer ‘couples’ sessions. During which they will teach you various aspects of the BDSM culture. They may ask you about hard and soft limits and what you are hoping to gain from the the experience.

You may also decide to visit separately and then share your experience later but I’d be worried of that old relationship killer jealousy rearing their ugly head and biting you afterwards. For peace of mind, and to really understand what your partner wants as a submissive, I would suggest you go together-even if one of you merely watches and learns.

As the suggestion is pretty much self explanatory, I’d like to share my own experience of what happened when me and my partner visited a dominatrix.

We’ve enjoyed many ‘light’ bondage sessions such as tying up, blindfolding etc when I suggested I’d found a local dominatrix who offered a couples service. My partner seemed interested but nothing more was made of it so I sent the various links to them via email and thought no more about it. I’d almost forgotten about it entirely until it was teased I should expect a ‘surprise’ for my birthday. I still had no clue.

As the day drew nearer I started to suspect and my response was a mixture of excitement and nerves-as is the go to response for many of us when we may actually go through with something we’ve been fantasising about.

On the day we were sent instructions and greeted by a lovely lady. We knew she was gorgeous from the pics on her website but they hadn’t captured how ‘down to earth’ her beauty was. It wasn’t a porn star style over dramatic made up, leather-clad temptress from hell we were met by. No, she was wearing a floaty summer dress with only a hint of dark make-up on.

She immediately put us both at ease with her manner and asked my partner about any hard limits as she was to be the ‘sub’ for this session. We all chatted like we’d known each other for years and she mentioned some of her own hard limits, making the whole process more personal.

She asked my partner to undress after she left the room and I was left standing fully clothed with my other half in her lingerie. She’d chosen a gorgeous set of panties with the cheeks cut out, creating a little ‘heart shape’ and exposing her flesh underneath.
After our host had returned, our ‘sub’ was asked to lie down on what looked like a massage table whilst we were both asked about our current experience level with whips, floggers and paddles.

She then proceeded to demonstrate all of the various techniques for twirling, teasing and striking with different floggers, taking turns with myself so as to let me perfect my technique.

We started with a light, hair based one to tease before building up to thicker, harder leather ones. In between rotations and striking my other half’s exposed ass, our host would massage the area with gloved hands to stimulate blood flow and increase pain tolerance, so we were told.

Thinking back to it now it was a huge turn on at the time to see another gorgeous woman groping my partners ass but at the time I was honestly more focused on doing a good job and not sporting a massively embarrassing erection!

We then moved on to paddles, where various striking techniques were demonstrated and my other half giggled throughout describing the feelings as ‘good but different.’ It was such a relief to know she was okay. Not nervous, not worried or the whole thing not living up to what either of us thought it might do. It made me settle in to that moment and enjoy it with her, and our host.

After a short time of demonstrating the various implements, we were left alone. After failing to figure out just how the restraints on the spanking table worked I continued to spank, tease and smack my other half’s beautiful posterior as she giggled some more.
We were both pretty aroused at this point so, I won’t give away any more details, but a good time was had by both of us before our host returned and checked my partner was okay. Going into a submissive headspace can be quite tiring (as I have since found out-check out this piece I wrote for Girl On The Net) but my other half faced it with her usual carefree attitude and we said our goodbyes and left.

The whole thing was very sexy but the entire time my other half was being spanked, toyed, teased and massaged I remember the main emotion running through my head was one of pride. I was so proud of her for going through with it, for being so open to new things-making me feel so lucky we could share this together.

I honestly believe the experience brought us closer, not just sexually, but more intimately that we can share such things without jealousy or judgement and treat it all as simply something new we tried together which we can reminisce about when we’re sitting in our rocking chairs in a retirement home. And, for me, that’s what makes a truly great memory as a couple-trying something new, having a laugh and maybe an orgasm or two.

The true beauty of submission lies not in the act but in the will

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